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Tuesday, 31 January 2017


I'm trying to make good on my New Year's resolutions

It has been rewarding, albeit a bit difficult. 

Let me explain: I live with social anxiety. Meeting new people and making small talk is not easy extremely stressful for me. I'm trying to put myself out there more and I'm taking small steps to do that. Blogging has always been about community for me and that's why I love it. It's a whole lot easier to strike up a conversation with someone that has a known similar interest to you. So with that being said, I've been trying (my best) to converse with other bloggers and to collaborate with them. This past weekend I met up with a new blogger in Ottawa, Chelsea, to grab coffee and snap some pictures for each other's blogs. It was such a lovely afternoon and I'm so happy that she reached out to me.

In my New Year's post I talked about reaching out to both old friends and new friends and I'm pretty happy with the progress that I've made on that front. I also discussed stepping out of my comfort zone in terms of my fashion choices. I haven't exactly lived up to that just yet but there are a few exciting (and edgy) #ootd posts coming up shortly. I kept it pretty simple for this look, though. I stuck to wearing a lot of my favourite pieces because that's what I feel most comfortable in, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I have been wearing a lot of grey lately. I used to be drawn to all black ensembles but I love how grey adds a bit of depth to those kinds of looks. I've talked about this coat from H&M 101 times but my love for it is still going strong. This large pukey coloured scarf is a new addition to my wardrobe, though. If you know me, you know I'm drawn to anything that can be described as ugly and I think that the colour of this scarf fits that description perfectly. I'm a fan of how unexpected it is and how it has the ability to go with everything. I tend to wear this scarf when I'm wearing lilac lipstick; I think the combination of those two colours + the blue in my hair is a match made in heaven. The black skinny jeans that I wore, along with my Dr. Marten boots, are fairly standard in my outfit posts (and in my life) because they work perfectly with just about everything in my wardrobe. I'm trying to make changes in my life and in the way I see/approach things, but some things are bound to stay the same. And that's okay too.

Photos by Chelsea Lanthier

Wednesday, 18 January 2017


I'm posting this when we're having unseasonably warm weather, but I assure you we have suffered through some extremely cold days this winter.

Canada is known for their winters and they're no joke. We have things like windchill, frostbite, blizzards, snow squalls and freezing rain to worry about. Every day seems to throw a different obstacle at us but we fight through it every year. I always laugh to myself because we're used to temperatures dipping past -10, -20 and sometimes -30 degrees celcius. It's not enjoyable, but it's a fact of life.

Not everywhere in Canada has it this bad (I'm looking at you, Vancouver) so I can only really speak about what it's like in Ottawa/Eastern Ontario. I used to love winter but now I'm finding myself counting down the seconds until spring (which can happen anywhere from March to May depending on how long winter wants to stay).

How do we survive it? Well, it takes a lot of strength. And layers. A lot of layers. Being a Canadian is expensive in a way because we truly experience all four season. And since we experience all four seasons, we have to dress appropriately for them. Frigid constantly changing weather conditions in the winter months means that we have to be ready for anything that Mother Nature throws at us.

On really cold days (-15 and below) I wear my parka. I couldn't live without it. It's from Eddie Bauer and it's rain/wind resistant. My only complaint about it is that it's a little too hot and I find myself sweating in it even on the coldest of days.

My main mode of transportation is the city bus, which isn't reliable even on the best days, so my outerwear really has to perform. I have a selection of winter boots, from brands like Dr. Martens, Timberland and Tommy Hilfiger, and I switch them out on an almost daily basis. Some are waterproof, some are extra warm and some have better traction - it all depends on how the sidewalks are and how much water/ice/snow there is out there.

A large scarf is a great tool to have, especially when frostbite warnings are in affect. They can cover your face and still keep a large portion of your upper body warm. A toque (or beanie for all my non-Canadian friends) is absolutely essential. You can find them at just about any store and the cheap ones work just as well as the expensive ones. Just find one that's thick enough to keep you warm. You lose a lot of heat through your head and your ears are a target for frostbite so it is imperative that you have your toque at the ready at. all. times.

I keep promising myself that I'm going to be a better blogger but it's so hard to take outfit of the day posts when the temperatures are low and when there are only a few short hours of daylight. I'm trying to be better. I will be better.

COAT/ Eddie Bauer SCARF/ Forever 21 TOQUE/ H&M
BACKPACK/ Matt & Nat
Photos by Laura Kidd

Tuesday, 3 January 2017


This is a guest post from Amber by Fatshion By The Pounds. 

Amber is a body positive plus size fashion blogger from America. We connected through Instagram a little while ago and her killer personal style is an endless source of inspiration for me. Her blog posts are edgy, fun and they encourage people to step outside of their comfort zone. For this collaboration we decided to talk about our New Year's resolutions, as well as NYE looks, and hers is all about goals that have nothing to do with weight loss.

Wednesday, 28 December 2016


New Years Eve, to me, has always been an excuse to dress as glamorous as humanly possible and indulge in champagne. That's it, that's all. I never really understood the whole 'new year new me' way of thinking but after the hellish year that was 2016, I'm willing to give it a shot.

I'm determined to go into the new year with a better attitude. I'm trying to find more positives in the world and I'm hanging onto them for dear life.

I'm trying to focus on the beauty in the world. I'm determined to surround myself with beautiful art, beautiful souls and beautiful scenery. I'm hoping to get back into photography, it was my passion when I was younger and it allowed me to find beauty in everything.

I changed my hair for the new year. It's not uncommon for people to change their hair after a traumatic/big event and I decided to give into that. 2016 was not a good year for me by any stretch of the imagination and I'm ready for change. My hair is purple (for now) and I'm absolutely loving it. It has given me a much needed boost of confidence and it is definitely helping my creative side come back to life.

It's no secret that fashion is a huge part of my life and this year I'm hoping to take more fashion risks. I typically stick to a strict uniform of all black paired with loud accessories. I do love that look but I'm hoping to shake it up a bit in the new year. Think bold colours, different textures and unconventional silhouettes. I'm saying this on a post where I'm pictured wearing head to toe black, but I'm hoping that these #ootd posts will be few and far between in 2017.

I'm going to try to connect with more people this year too - be it other bloggers, new friends, old friends, complete strangers or whoever. This post is actually in collaboration with a fantastic blogger, Amber from Fatshion by the Pounds. I see her on Instragram daily and I read her blog whenever she posts because her personal style is so inspiring to me. I think it is incredibly important to connect with and talk to people with similar passions so I'm hoping to make more connections/friendships in this coming year. Living with social anxiety makes this especially hard but I'm finding ways to live with it. Self care is important in that respect, but that's a different post for a different time.

Overall I'm reaching for the stars in 2017. I'm going into the new year with my (purple) head held high. I strongly believe that everything that I've personally dealt with within the past 365 days has prepared me for a new tomorrow and I'm excited for new adventures, new attitudes and new ambitions.

TOP&PANTS/ Melissa McCarthy x Seven7 NECKLACE/ Forever 21 
HANDBAG/ H&M SHOES/ Cute To The Core
Photos by Lisa and Laura Kidd
Hair by Nessa